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6th September 2024
09:21am BST
Actor Elliot Page has shared how he responds when someone misgenders him.
The 37-year-old Canadian came out as trans back in 2020 sharing the news to his audience on Instagram.
The actor starred in the recently released film Close to You, which revolved around his character Sam as he returns to his family home for the first time since his gender transition.
In the film Page's character corrects his onscreen mother, played by Wendy Crewson, when she misgenders him.
The Guardian asked the actor if that was a "genuine slip of the tongue," to which he replied that "it was," as he proceeded to divulge that he chooses not to dwell on being misgendered as long as the intention is not insulting.
"I feel weird because I get misgendered all the time, and I don’t care unless someone’s trying to..." he said, explaining that he "wouldn’t correct Wendy as me".
"I’d be like: ‘It’s fine. We’re going to move on from the moment. It takes a second.’ But, you know, I’m not me. I’m Sam here. And that moment was so perfect because that’s what happens," he added.
Page revealed that his own mother, Martha Philpotts, also slips up with his pronouns on occasion, although this is no problem for the Inception and Juno actor.
He said: “She’s pretty good. I’m like, ‘Of course, it’s going to take you a second, Mom. It’s fine. You don’t need to beat yourself up about it!’”
The actor, who came out as trans back in 2020, released his autobiography last year, where he spilled the beans on many of his former relationships.
One of those just so happened to be with a former co-star, with whom he fell “desperately in love.”
“My partner was more closeted than me for a change,” Page wrote, explaining that the actress was so private he even had her saved in his phone under the name 'Ryan'.
“She was radiant – her dress, her smile, how she pushed her hair from her face … We discussed books, activism, our collective consciousness, and the deep intelligence of nature,” the actor said of the romance, via Page Six.
The 36-year-old first met the actress while they were working on a film together, but that their relationship was incredibly private.
“Her parents did not know,” he wrote. “I was the friend that came for Christmas … We never touched outside, we barely went to dinner."
However, this did not stop the duo from having "a lot of fun."
Page explained that they enjoyed "discreet but adventurous sex."
"On rocks, just below the Pacific Coast Highway, hidden in boulders in Joshua Tree National Park, on an airplane," he wrote.
However, the Umbrella Academy star explained that the relationship was not "sustainable," citing "the lying the anxiety, the disgust."
He added that he didn't think 'Ryan' could “handle the shame” of being seen as “queer.”
Page was left "shattered" after 'Ryan' dumped him, and described how he felt when he saw the actress with someone new.
The Inception actor left the room claiming he had food poisoning, but 'Ryan's' new partner came to bring him coconut water.
“He had no idea about our history of course,” he wrote. “It was a kind gesture, but I wanted to take that coconut water and throw it.”
"It unreservedly gutted me," the actor said of seeing his ex-love with someone else, and act "in the way she never could with me" with someone else.
This relationship isn't the only one Page discussed in his memoir. The actor also revealed that he had a fling with his Juno co-star Olivia Thirlby, as well as a relationship with actress Kate Mara.
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