Sex is a fragile thing and as such, there are various factors of our every day lives that can upset it. For example, we don’t enjoy sex as much when we’re stressed, tired or worried about something else.

Here at Her.ie we believe that life is too short to settle for dull, uninspiring sex. If your sex life is just something that you do rather than something that you actively enjoy then it’s time for you to seriously consider giving your bedroom action a bit of a shake up.

If you want to make your sex life better, hotter and more orgasmic here are five simple tips that can work wonders...

Never skimp on the foreplay: In order for sex to be completely explosive, both partners need to be super-turned on and focussed on each other. How do you ensure that you have his undivided attention? There’s one answer: foreplay.

Foreplay heightens arousal and increases your desire (which majorly ups the chances of you having an orgasm) and this is why you should never, ever skimp on it. Foreplay = better orgasms and hotter sex. It’s definitely worth making foreplay just as important as the act of sex itself.

Never underestimate the power of foreplay

Don’t rush the foreplay: Foreplay immediately turns up the sexual heat between you and your man and it builds the all-important anticipation. Anticipation is always the best part. The longer you spend building up that tension, the hotter and more satisfying your sex life will be. The next time you’re in bed with your man, agree that you’ll spend longer on foreplay. Tease each other, enjoy it. You’ll definitely notice the difference that it creates.

Get vocal: Never be afraid to speak your mind in the bedroom. It’s important to understand that your man wants to please you, he just might not know how to. So give him a gentle nudge in the right direction. Tell him what you like, show him, guide him to the right spots – that way you’ll get what you want and knowing that you’re enjoying the experience will drive him wild.

Be positive: The worst thing you can do when it comes to sex is to criticise your other half. Instead, use positive reinforcement to get what you want beneath the sheets. Use phrases like “I love when you touch me there” or “I love when you take it slow.” Be kind, be positive and get ready for a better sex life.

When it comes to sex, never be afraid to give your partner a nudge in the right direction

Don’t be shy, take control: There’s a common misconception that we shouldn’t take an active role in creating pleasure for ourselves, especially when it comes to sex. Even if the sex is bad, we struggle to speak up about it. It’s important to realise that your partner can’t read your mind. They don’t automatically know what works for you or what doesn’t.

Therefore you need to take control of your own orgasm. You need to figure out what your turn ons are so you can translate your wants and needs back to your partner. You need to communicate what you want to them, whether by telling them or showing them. Sex is just as much your responsibility as it is your partners. When you realise this, it can actually be a pretty freeing thought. Give yourself permission to take control of your sex life today. It’ll be the best decision you ever make.