When was the last time you had amazing, mind-blowing, toe-curling sex? If it’s taking you longer than five seconds to think of an example, then chances are it’s been too long.

When it comes to heating things up between the sheets, sex and relationship experts agree that there are three things every woman should know.

It’s freezing cold outside, so why not read the following and attempt to get things smouldering in the bedroom tonight?

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For better sex, you need to take control: When it comes to great sex, too often we put unnecessary expections and pressure on our partners. You can’t rely on your man to continually get it right, especially if you’re not willing to tell him what to do in order to ensure you have the kind of sexually satisfying experience you want.

Any sex expert worth their weight in gold maintains that your own pleasure is your job and not the job of your other half. In order to have fantastic sex, you need to know what turns you on and you need to be able to translate that to your man so he knows how to make your toes curl in the bedroom.

How do you figure out what you like? Experts recommend a round of solo love. By experimenting on your own, you’re better able to discover the things that you like and the things that you don’t like, meaning that you’ll be able to share this knowledge with your partner.

It's important to know what you like, so you can tell your partner

Good sex requires encouragement and appreciation: It goes without saying that sexual performance can be an area of massive insecurity for some men (and women!), that’s why encouragment is so important, especially in the bedroom.

When your partner is doing something that’s working for you, tell them and make sure you let the know how good it feels. This type of positive reinforcement is how he’ll learn to please you beneath the covers.

Another smart tactic is to give some positive feedback after sex. Simply say “I love it when you did (describe what he did here).  Communicating appreciation and encouragement will ensure that both you and your partner are on the same page when it comes to sex.

Don’t be afraid to initiate: There’s a common misconception that when it comes to sex, the man should always be the one to make the first move.  Why not get rid of this idea and try initiating some sexy time with your man instead? Taking control will not only boost your confidence, it will work wonders for your relationship. Remember: men like to feel wanted just as much as women do. Flip the script from time to time and watch your sex life heat up.