It’s well accepted that sometimes even the people surrounded by others can often feel lonely. Now a husband and wife team at Chicago University has revealed loneliness is a result of different wiring in the brains of people who feel lonely. Now, Stephanie and John Cacioppo have compiled a four step process called the ‘Ease method’. The technique, published in Psychology Today, aims to bring you out of a state of feeling lonely and help people build meaningful relationships in a support network. The EASE method involves: E-extend yourself: accept social invitations even when you don’t feel like it. The Cacioppos state “you cannot connect if you isolate yourself”. A – action plan: Make a plan to work out how you plan to overcome any feelings of social awkwardness or anxiety. “The simple realisations that we are not passive victims, that we do have some control, and that we can change our situation by changing our thoughts, expectations, and behaviours toward others can have a surprisingly empowering effect.” S – selection: While the Cacioppos insist on the importance of getting out and making friends, they also warn that it’s quality and not quantity that will help ease your loneliness. Instead spend time with people who you feel close to and can develop meaningful relationships with. E – expect the best: The Cacioppos say that having a positive mental attitude will greatly help improve your feelings of isolation. If you feel like you can improve the situation, and make a conscious effort to put the previous steps into place, you should start to feel more optimistic about making friends and trusting others. If you are struggling with mental health issues and need something to talk to, there are a range of confidential and anonymous options available. You can find a full list of available options here.